4. Don’t Be Afraid Of Lube
Talk to any sex expert and they’ll be the first to tell you how underrated lube is for sexual encounters. For squirting, lubrication is a must – as it keeps everything, ahem, well, flowing.
Fogel says that while you might want her to just be wet out of pure pleasure, there’s no shame in having as much lube as possible to start engaging her body for a long time. “Using enough lubrication is important to make her G-spot ready and to prevent any discomfort that may arise due to friction,” she suggests. “A water-based lube works best. Make sure not only to apply it to the outside and inside of her vagina, but to your fingers and palm as well. Once everything is sufficiently wet, you can start working on her G-spot.”
To get started with the right type of lube, make sure you check the ingredients before applying any product to your most sensitive areas. While we can’t guarantee your body’s reaction, if you stick with these lubricants that are water-based, you will more than likely be safe. And hey, if it happens, see a doctor ASAP and do not be embarrassed – chances are good that they’ve seen it all!
If you’ve been getting it on since you were a teenager, you probably stopped by your local drugstore to pick up some K-Y. Why? As one of the most well known (and the No. 1 doctor-recommended) brands, it is no wonder that by now, this lubricant is a household name. This water-based formula only has water (duh), glycerin, sorbitol, propylene glycol, hydroxyethylcellulose, benzoic acid, methylparaben and sodium hydroxide – all of which are approved ingredients for fun time in the bedroom Cougared. It is mean to alleviate vaginal dryness for women while they’re having sex, or for when you’re trying to help her reach her highest level of orgasm. Though it is only compatible with latex condoms, the K-Y lube will be a welcome addition to your toy chest.$9.74 at Walmart
System J0 Personal H20
As the name suggests, this is a water-based lubricant meant for safe, slippery play. Though it is made with aqua, reviewers say that it feels more like a silicone lube, leaving you and your lady feeling moisturized instead of just-showered. This lube is also known to last longer and keep you hydrated under your belt for whenever you’re up for some more action together. It won’t not get sticky and washes off easily, just in case you need to make it to your dinner reservation or the office, stat. You might even consider bulk buying options, if you plan on using lube frequently in your sex life (and ahem, you should, for the sake of both of your bodies).$8.99 at Walgreens
5. Really Nurture The G-spot
And by nurture, we mean the more attention the better-but with the right touch. This comes after practice, since hey, as they say, it makes it perfect! Once you’ve done all the prep work, now you’re actually in for the hard work of getting her to the point of squirting. Because female ejaculation can only really happen when you spend an extended amount of time – think up to an hour – focused solely on her G-spot, make sure you’re prepared for a lot of trial and error. Fogel recommends beginning with oral and finger play.
“Use oral sex to stimulate and arouse her clitoris. After doing this for a few minutes, insert your middle finger inside her; palm facing up. With your finger in about two inches deep, rub her front vaginal wall using a ‘come hither’ motion. After using this motion for several minutes you can add your middle finger and experiment with different amounts of pressure and movement,” Fogel explains. You’ll know that this combination of oral sex and fingering is working when her G-spot becomes enlarged and feels spongy. This means that the frontal wall of her vagina is swollen with liquid from those Skene’s glands, Fogel says.